Relationship Counselling

IFS Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling

Monsey • Lakewood • Toronto • Online Worldwide

Has Your Relationship Shifted Into Something You Barely Recognize?

Was your relationship once the part of your life that felt easy, warm, and nourishing—where being together felt natural and safe?

And now:

Has your partner felt disconnected for a long time, and you kept hoping their complaints or frustrations would eventually blow over?
Do you suddenly feel like you can’t trust them anymore?
Do you feel like no matter what you do, you’re not welcomed, understood, or wanted?
Are you stuck in the same arguments again and again, even when you promised yourselves you wouldn’t go back there?

These kinds of patterns are incredibly painful.
They can make you wonder what happened, whether things can get better, and even whether the relationship can survive.

For many couples, these struggles appear during moments of intense strain — betrayal, illness, relocation, financial pressure, parenting stress, or simply years of disconnection piling up quietly.

But underneath all of this, something very human is happening.

Often, the repeating arguments and the emotional distance aren’t because you don’t care.
They’re signs of protective parts inside both partners trying desperately to prevent more hurt, rejection, or vulnerability.

IFS couples therapy gives space for these parts to be seen, understood, and softened — so you can reconnect in a way that feels safe and real again.

When You’re Tired of Feeling Unseen, Unwelcome, or Alone

Many couples arrive in therapy with questions they’ve been carrying quietly for months or years:

“How did we get here?”
“Why can’t we talk without everything blowing up?”
“Is this distance temporary… or is it permanent?”
“Can we survive what happened between us?”
“Why do I feel like I’m walking on eggshells?”

Maybe something specific happened — a betrayal of trust, a health crisis, or a big relocation that shook the foundation of your relationship.
Or maybe the change was slow and subtle, until one day you realized you hardly recognize the way you treat each other.

IFS therapy helps you understand what’s happening beneath the arguments and silence so you can make decisions from clarity, not panic or exhaustion.

What IFS Couples Therapy Actually Helps With

IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapy takes the pressure off “fixing” each other and instead helps you understand the protective parts inside both of you.

Together, we explore:

what parts get triggered in conflict
why those parts jump into action so fast
what fears or wounds they’re trying to protect
where the longing for closeness still exists underneath

This approach helps you:

communicate without attacking or shutting down
rebuild trust slowly and honestly
understand the pain on both sides
reconnect with the warmth that used to feel so natural
decide, together, whether healing and staying together is possible
or gain clarity about what each of you truly needs going forward

IFS therapy is not about pushing you to stay together or separate.
It’s about helping you find the truth of what’s possible — with compassion, steadiness, and insight.

For Couples Facing Real-Life Strain

I work with couples going through:

long-term disconnection and emotional distance
betrayal or broken trust
chronic illness, mental health challenges, or caregiving strain
relocation, immigration, or major transitions
feeling unwelcome, unseen, or misunderstood
repeating arguments that never resolve
feeling unsure if the relationship can continue

No matter what you’re carrying, you don’t have to face it alone or in survival mode.

Where I Work

In-person couples therapy:

Monsey, NY
Lakewood, NJ
Toronto, ON

Online IFS Couples Therapy:
Available across the U.S., Canada, Israel, and internationally.
Ideal for couples dealing with relocation, travel, illness, long-distance, or scheduling challenges.

You Don’t Have to Keep Doing This Alone

When you’re hurt, confused, or unsure about the future, it’s hard to think clearly.
IFS couples therapy can help you understand what’s happening between you — and inside you — so you can move forward with more confidence and less fear.

Whether your hope is to repair the relationship or simply understand what’s possible, therapy can help you get there.

Book a Consultation

If you’d like to talk about what you’re facing and see if IFS couples therapy feels right, you can schedule a short consultation.