Sex Therapy Using Internal Family Systems (IFS)

In-Person in Toronto & Virtual IFS Therapy

Sexual concerns are rarely just about sex.

Many people seek sex therapy because something feels off—desire has faded, intimacy feels tense or pressured, or sex has become a source of conflict, avoidance, or shame. Often, these struggles persist even in loving, committed relationships and even when communication is “good.”

I provide sex therapy grounded in Internal Family Systems therapy (IFS) for individuals and couples through in-person sessions in Toronto and virtual IFS therapy for clients seeking an IFS therapist near me, including Monsey, Brooklyn, and Lakewood.

My approach is respectful, trauma-informed, and non-judgmental. We work at a pace that supports safety, dignity, and real change.

Why Sex Therapy Often Feels Stuck

Traditional sex therapy often focuses on skills, techniques, or performance goals. While these approaches can be useful, they frequently fall short when strong emotions, shame, fear, or trauma are involved.

Many clients tell me:

• “I know what I should feel, but my body doesn’t cooperate.”

• “We keep talking about it, but nothing changes.”

• “Part of me wants closeness, and another part shuts down.”

From an IFS perspective, these experiences make sense.

Sex Therapy Through an IFS Lens

In Internal Family Systems therapy, sexual difficulties are understood as expressions of protective parts—parts that developed to keep you safe from emotional pain, vulnerability, rejection, or past experiences.

These parts are not broken or wrong. They are doing their best with what they learned.

As a certified IFS therapist, I help clients:

• Understand the internal conflicts affecting desire and intimacy

• Reduce shame and self-blame around sexual struggles

• Gently work with protective and vulnerable parts

• Restore a sense of emotional and physical safety

• Build intimacy through connection rather than pressure

This bottom-up approach is especially effective when logic and reassurance haven’t been enough.

Sex Therapy for Individuals

Individual sex therapy may be helpful if you are experiencing:

• Low or absent desire

• Anxiety or shutdown around intimacy

• Shame, guilt, or inner conflict related to sex

• Difficulty staying present or connected

• Lingering impact of past experiences

• A gap between what you want emotionally and what feels possible

Using IFS therapy, we work respectfully with your internal system so change happens organically, without forcing or fixing.

Sex Therapy for Couples

For couples, sexual struggles often reflect deeper relational patterns:

• Mismatched desire or pacing

• One partner pursuing while the other withdraws

• Pressure, resentment, or emotional distance

• Difficulty feeling safe, open, or relaxed together

Through IFS couples therapy, each partner learns to understand their own internal experience while developing greater empathy for the other. As emotional safety increases, sexual connection often follows naturally.

A Trauma-Informed, Non-Judgmental Space

My work as an IFS therapist is informed by:

• Trauma-sensitive pacing

• Deep respect for individual and cultural values

• Awareness of intergenerational and relational patterns

• The belief that healing happens when all parts feel heard

There is no expectation to share more than feels safe. Therapy is collaborative and guided by your readiness.

Work With an IFS Sex Therapist in Toronto or Online

I offer:

• Sex therapy in Toronto (in-person)

• Internal Family Systems therapy Toronto

• IFS therapist near me (online)

• Virtual IFS therapy

• Support for individuals and couples

• Services for clients in Monsey, Brooklyn, and Lakewood

If you are looking for sex therapy that goes beyond techniques and addresses the emotional roots of intimacy, Internal Family Systems therapy offers a compassionate and effective path forward.