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So many people come into therapy saying some version of this: “I hate sounding like a victim.”“I know I should just move on.”“I don’t want to keep talking about the past.” Underneath those words is usually a part  that feels ashamed, weak, or guilty for still hurting. That part believes the only way to be strong is to get over it  — to stop feeling sorry for ourselves, to stop “dwelling,” to push on. But from an Internal Family Systems (IFS) perspective, this inner conflict i

"Compassion Is the Noise Cancellation of Fear: An IFS Therapy Perspective" explores how compassion, within the framework of Internal...

Social Media and Self-Image: Why We Struggle With “Being Enough” The difficulties arise when these parts of us are carrying unhealed...

Discover how Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy helps you understand the parts that argue, protect, and escalate—and how to reclaim...

Healing Self-Worth: Why You Feel Unappreciated (Even When People Love You) You give so much — at work, in relationships, at home. You’re...

By Steven Gestetner | IFS Psychotherapy Owning Your Success Have you ever felt like you can’t fully enjoy your success or security—even...